When People Think Your Baby is Ugly

I’m not talking about your human baby. That would be mean. All babies are cute.

Isn’t he ADORABLE? And so well behaved!

I’m talking about your book baby. Okay, so this post is geared towards the writers out there. I am in the 2020 Debuts group on Facebook and one thing I’ve heard several times over the year is…”Whatever you do, don’t go in the basement.” Scratch that. It was, “Whatever you do, don’t read your Goodreads reviews.”

I am sorry, but I didn’t get into writing for the money. I write because I like to tell stories and I love making a connection with a reader. If a book never gets read by someone, what’s the point? And I don’t know about you, but I am more curious than a five year old kid on Christmas Eve. I want to know what people think, even if it’s not exactly complimentary. So, yeah. I read reviews. Some are wonderful and my fragile little writer ego is boosted for about an hour.

But then… then I’ll come across the inevitable 1 Star rating with no explanation. Purely hypothetical, but sometimes you get one from the founder of a book club and well, it’s very awkward when you show up to discuss your staggering work of mediocre oatmeal mush with the group.

And then sometimes, you get a 1 Star review that is so thorough, so brilliant in its style and execution that there is nothing left to do but share it with the world (or the 12 readers of this blog). Inspired by celebrities reading mean tweets, I decided that it’s about time that I got to share in the fun!

Other writers, I hope you will join me in this celebration that simply illustrates the subjective nature of our art form.

So, without further ado, I give you my one star review. (I’m sure there will be more, but for now, this will have to suffice.)

See? I didn’t burst into flames or anything. It’s just one person’s opinion and honestly, it is just as relevant as every other review. Plus, it contributes to the algorithms of discoverability, so it’s all good.

Here’s my call to action, folks. If you’ve read Forever 51 or Death Becomes Us, please write a review. It can be short, sweet, not so sweet or whatever. I APPRECIATE it all.

The 2020 Quarantine Book Club was on TV!

Writing About the Death Penalty

If you've read Death Becomes Us, you know that I communicated with two different men on death row. For my MFA thesis, I contacted Khristian Oliver to speak with someone who knew the day they were going to die. (That sounds horrible and callous, but I guess you'd have to read my book to understand.)

The second man, Larry Matthew Puckett, had the same spiritual adviser as Khristian and he asked if I'd also write to Matt. Matt wrote about his life on death row in Mississippi, as well as the men who were scheduled for execution. I agreed and we corresponded until he was executed in March of 2012.

I met Jamie Arpin-Ricci, one of Matt's other penpals, via Facebook and we have remained friends. (True tidbit...he designed my book's cover!) As a fellow writer who has tackled the difficult topic of the death penalty in America, I decided to invite him on the blog to talk about his book. So, welcome Jamie!

Jamie Arpin-Ricci

Jamie Arpin-Ricci is an author, speaker, and community advocate living in the inner city of Winnipeg, Canada with his wife & two children. He is the pastor of Little Flowers Community, an inner city Mennonite church. He has written several books, including "The Last Verdict", “The Cost of Community: Jesus, St. Francis, & Life in the Kingdom”, “Vulnerable Faith: Missional Living in the Radical Way of St. Patrick”, and several other books.

What is your book, The Last Verdict, about?

"The Last Verdict" tells the story of two mothers whose lives collide because of a tragic murder- the mother of the victim and the mother of the man condemned for her death. The story follows their complicated and heart-wrenching pursuit of justice for their children.

What was the genesis of this book?

Several years ago I read a novel about death row. While I had long been ideologically opposed to the death penalty, the story touched something in me, pushing me to go deeper. I knew that I needed to personalize the topic. So I became pen pals with two men on death row. I chose one of the men, Matt Puckett, because we were born almost a month apart.

Matt and I soon became good friends, writing regularly about things such as justice, faith, reading, and life on death row. Through him I became friends with several of his family members, especially his mother, Mary. Before Matt was executed, I asked me to use my writing to try to change people's hearts and minds about capital punishment.

I struggled to know what to write for quite some time. However, through my continued friendship with Mary I began to be moved by her mothers heart. Aside from the ethics and politics of capital punishment, I realized that on both sides of a murder are people who deeply loved those involved. So I decided to write a story that helped people get a glimpse at both sides.

You mention with Matt that you reached out to him because of your closeness in age. Were you scared about communicating with someone on death row?

I suppose I should have been at least nervous, but to be honest, I wasn't. As my wife will tell you, I have an uncommon ease with reaching out to people who others might be afraid of. I was cautious, as I didn't know what to expect. The cynic in me wondered if they would be honest with me, so I was somewhat guarded. Matt quickly put me at ease.

What one thing about the death penalty would you want people to know. I ask this, as most people don't really know much about it, until it touches
them personally.

I think it is just that: It has to be personal for us to meaningfully engage on the issue. I've always said, if you are going to be for the death penalty, I hope you do so with a heavy heart knowing that we get it wrong so often, and even when we get it right, it harms innocent people. And if you are going to be against the death penalty, I hope you do so with a heavy heart knowing what that means to the victims family and friends. It shouldn't be easy, regardless of what side you take.

I would also say that we need to dismantle our binary "good guy vs. bad guy" mentality. We want our bad guys unredeemable and our good guys pure as the driven snow. Because we think in these terms, we all too often don't consider the potential for a wrongful conviction on a murder because the person has a record of abuse or crime. Matt was the first to admit to me that he was no angel before his arrest. Yet, too many people will use those things to write off the possibility of innocence. I wonder if we do this, in part, because to acknowledge that complexity means acknowledging that none of us are angels.

Do you still communicate with anyone on death row?

Yes. On the same day I began writing Matt, I chose another man to correspond with. Ron Smith is the only Canadian on US death row (in Montana). Ron never denied his guilt. So overwhelmed with grief over the brutal murder he committed while high, he requested the death penalty. While he received his sentence in 1983, he has been on death row ever since. It didn't take him long to change his mind about wanting to die. It is unlikely that Montana will ever follow through with his sentence. He's a very nice man.

Do you have any new books in the works?

I have a couple of projects on the go, including a coming-of-age novel and a progressive Christian theology book. Ideas are never in short supply, but with a 15 month old baby, time and energy are.

Thanks, Jamie, for taking the time to answer my questions!

If you'd like to reach out to Jamie...

http://www.jamiearpinricci.com
http://facebook.com/JamieArpinRicci
http://twitter.com/jamiearpinricci
http://instagram.com/jamiearpinricci
http://pinterest.com/jamiearpinricci

If you, dear reader, would like to share your story on my blog, whether it's about working in a death profession or the death of a loved one, please contact me! Let's continue to keep the conversation flowing!

Also, don't be afraid to comment, ask questions, or like these posts. I don't bite.